I’m back! After a mini hiatus, I’m ready to get back at it. In my last post (Hitting Pause to Refresh, Regroup, Refocus) I talked about some of the things that were going on in my life, both personally and professionally. Well, so much has happened and changed since then. In case you’re wondering what my last few months have been like, here’s the cliff notes version.
- Over the past year, my marriage has been very challenging and uncertain. It was touch and go for a while and I truly thought we’d pull through, but I’m sad to say that Stewart and I are separating. This was the hardest decision I’ve had to make. We are working on our friendship and trying to make the best of a very difficult situation. I have good moments and other times where I just break down, but I have an amazing support system, doggies, and trust that the Universe has my back. I also am very good at keeping myself busy with lots of projects.
- As for work, I’m no longer working at Sears. As you may have heard, they declared bankruptcy and are shutting it all down. Thankfully, I got another job right before all this went down. I’m now a Product Developer Consultant at Canadian Tire for their living private label. My focus is on Furniture, Lighting, Patio and Storage & Organization (how very fitting). I’m loving the people I work with and enjoy all the new challenges.
- I’ve also been working on the blog behind the scenes. There is so much to learn about blogging, marketing, SEO, photography, etc… I took an online class through Blogging Your Way taught by Holly Becker from Decor8. I love her classes, she has so much knowledge and is so inspiring. At the end of her classes, she does a draw for a free class, and I won! Her next class is on Photography for Storytellers, check it out if you can.
- I was also invited to participate in a design show this upcoming January, TO DO + UMBRA. Stewart and I worked on it together. We met in design school and used to work on projects together, so it’s really great that despite everything happening between us, we made this project happen. I’m so excited about what we designed. I’ll be sharing more very soon!
- Lastly, I’m moving back out on my own, the first time in almost 10 years. I’m filled with mixed emotions, I’m going to miss the companionship, the house, and the neighborhood. We’re splitting up the dogs; I’ll still get to see Lemon, sometimes she’ll stay with Ruby and I and other times Ruby will visit Stewart. The decorator inside of me is very excited about all the possibilities of a new place. Discovering a new neighborhood is also exciting. Soon I’ll have my new favorite coffee shop or new local shops. I’ll be sharing this on the blog over the next few months.
With all the ups and downs over the last few months, here are 5 tips that helped me get through it all and continue to help.
1. SUPPORT SYSTEM
This is the most important. Family, friends even a therapist. Someone who’ll listen, be there for you, make you laugh, give you good even bad advice and hug you.
Get your feelings and thoughts out of your head and onto paper. I found that this helped clear up the brain clutter and helped give a better perspective.
3. MEDITATION + YOGA
I found that taking the time to be in my body, and present helped keep me from spinning. It created space in my body, heart, and mind which allowed me to let go and sometimes even cry it out.
Clear the clutter around you, and imagine the changes that you want in your life. Does it include all this baggage, most likely not? I recommend you read Mari Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.
5. SHIFT FOCUS
Do something for yourself. It’s important to take your mind off of what’s happening and have a bit of fun. Create a DIY project, or go to the movies. It doesn’t have to be big, but allow yourself to laugh and get out of your daily routines.
Remember that it might be tough now, but nothing is permanent, these emotions will pass and things will get better. Focus on yourself and moving forward. Major life changes are intimidating but they’re also exciting and without them, nothing changes. Life is magical and so are you!
What have you done when faced with a major life change? I’d love to know more about it. Leave a comment below or tag me on Instagram (@stylishlytidylife) if you post a picture!